photo from my iphone this morning – a new-found favorite experience – sunrise out my condo window and developing my true self.
( quote from my favorite devotional — ps i’ve read it three years in a row now if that doesn’t say anything 😉 )
Good Tuesday morning! So, let me open this blog post like this. Yesterday when hubbs and I took Maxi for a walk, we stopped by to grab the mail, as we always do after our walk. The mailman had just gotten there, so we could only get the mail from the weekend. I remember thinking… I’ll just go grab it in the morning on our morning walk. Fast forward to this morning.
I’ve done my absolute best to establish a routine. My mom always tells me its better to have a routine. This is SO true especially when you are in business for yourself. For those days when you’re slammed and have tons of work, and completely the opposite, you’ll be glad you have a routine. I say this, because my routine looks like this:
So, by 9 am, I’ve already completed some of my to-dos: making my bed, spend time with Jesus, learn, and blogged. That’s 4 things I would have not accomplished on a regular day if I didn’t have a plan. This really helps me, a lot. And not to mention, the first time I look at my phone is when I sit down to work. Fill your morning FIRST with scripture, and the rest of the day just falls into place. Sooooo… what I’ve learned? I’m getting there, bare with me.
This morning, I took max for our walk and then headed up to check the mail, since I had planned on doing that last night. I even remember thinking… sooner or later I’ll have to get something fun… ( not bills ). Right? Then I opened the box, to see one handwritten letter. That’s it.
I immediately smiled, knowing my sweet sister’s handwriting that I knew it was from her. The image at the top said “If you knew how much I miss you… ” and the inside read : “You’d be back by now.” And then she writes, “BUT REALLY, MOVE BACK HOME.” ( and yea, it was in caps! ) She wrote some other super sweet stuff between us, and I just started getting teary. Its totally what I needed this morning. She captures my heart in so many ways that I can’t explain yall. She’s my litter sister, but she’s so wise. So smart and so very mature. She’s my best friend.
It’s interesting how handwritten letters speak for themselves. She didn’t have to call me, to tell me this in a text or anything… she wrote it. And letters are the way to my heart yall. It said exactly what she needed to say, and exactly what I needed to hear. So thank you Carli ( hopefully you are reading this ) for sending such a sweet card ( with an owl of course! ) – you made my day. I’m so thankful for you and I love you like crazy. 🙂
My challenge to you is to write that handwritten card ( or letter ). Nothing speaks more volumes than your best friend or long lost friend seeing your actual handwriting, in their hands. Just do it. Take five minutes, it could change your life in ways you don’t imagine. Since hubbs and I moved to Atlanta, GA in September ( he moved in March ) we’ve had a really, really tough time. We can’t catch a break. Life here is just so completely different and we figured out really quickly. Its not that we don’t like Buckhead ( where we live ) or our beautiful ( tiny ) condo, or the people, or this lifestyle. Its that our family isn’t here. We’re almost four hours away. And the communications we get are… “come back home.” We’ll make it there soon guys, we promise. So, please, say a prayer for us. Its tougher than you think to live so far from family, when they write letters that speak for themselves.
[ what i’ve learned // progress not perfection ]
Do you ever just have those days that you feel “ugly?” I sure do. I’m not talking about looks, about appearance or personality. I’m talking about there’s some days in your life that everything is ugly. You wake up in a bad mood ( no idea why ) and then nothing seems to go your way. Each thing that hits you, is a blow. Its a nasty frustrating world. It seems like everybody is out to get you. You try really hard and then … down again. Does anybody resonate with days like this?
I’ve had a lot of those lately. That’s been my week. I keep choosing to say no to things that will upset me and its been a cycle. Bam, here comes this again. I find myself gritting my teeth. I find myself not being inspired. Not wanting to tackle emails or small projects around the house I put off. Or I don’t want to cook. You get it now? Its the ugly. Its the things we just don’t want to share with people. Its things that don’t appear on pretty blogs or fluffy perfect websites. Ugly is there. Sometimes you just have to embrace it and realize that it is life. Its going to happen, and when it does, learn from it. Let it sink in that life isn’t how its supposed to be so that you can recognize, right then, that its no fun to be miserable. Pinpoint it. Write it down. Journal. Get it out of your head. Its concrete and permanent. Its in your space. Its down.
I’m not kidding. Write it down. The bad stuff, the negative thoughts, the frustrations, the worries, the guilt, etc. Whatever it is for you right now, write it down. Date it and fold the paper up. Or over, or whatever. Let yourself realize that you just got the “ugly” out. Didn’t you? How do you feel?
That’s progress. Right? None of us are perfect. No matter how positive this blog may be, it gets ugly sometimes. Because I’m authentic. I’m a believer in true, genuine relationships and that may not be a side of things that you’ve ever seen around here until now, but guess what!? We all have to start back again. We all have to make progress. We all want to strive for perfection.
I designed the little graphic above because I feel like there’s so many of you out there that know exactly how I feel. One step forwards, three steps back. Right? Frustrating. Aggravating. Overwhelming? Yea, I totally get it. You’re not alone. Times are frustrating. But make this graphic your desktop background. Put it on your phone, print it out. Whatever that is for you, put it in front of you for an everyday glance. I’m enough. Just like you are enough. You got this! Interestingly enough, we all GOT THIS!
My husband has been fighting lots of sickness lately. Its a mind game with him. Last night we walked a few miles around Buckhead and he was fighting the mind games, I could tell. I literally made him say “I GOT THIS!” Until I heard authenticity, belief and strength in his voice. He thought I was dumb at first, but this morning when he left for work, he told me… “I GOT THIS.” Now how is that for progress? Try it. I promise it will prove that you in fact are making progress.
Does anyone resonate with this? Love you all. Enjoy the graphic! 🙂
image via megan matsuoka
First things first, I’m not a saint. We all know that. I try, and I pray ( hard ) for patience. It’s super difficult and hard to manage ( can I get an amen? ) In my situation, as a freelancer and sole business owner, I’m it. The one person. Now, of course I hire out here and there, but 99% of the time its me and my IT team ( the hubbs ). Sometimes down time is inevitable. It really is. If you’re like me and have owned your business for some time, you’ll realize there will be down time.
Just last week I found myself feeling lost. Is this for me? Am I doing the right thing? Am I OUT THERE? Am I consistent and patient with my jobs? Then why do I have down time? Why am I searching in places that are not even necessary? There’s a difference between down time and rest. I’ve learned that. And most of the time ( like 99% of the time ) I need rest. That’s just how my body tells me. I pray hard ( what am I doing wrong? ) for a steady work flow and then just sometimes it happens. Down time.
But, I’ve learned. That downtime for me, it means rest. That was last week. Fast forward a week’s time, and I’m jam packed with work. Sliding in time to eat and walk Max. Balance is hard. It really is. Especially if you have 20 projects in one week, then your down time the next. It will come, just be patient. And when you do, its worth what you’ve waited for. Promise. But, you have to be diligent and proactive. I will mention that. Your down time might not end if you give up on yourself. You can’t. God placed you in that moment for a reason.
I read this quote yesterday that gave me so much reassurance and promise : “Your big opportunity may be right where you are now.” – Napoleon Hill
Just meditate over that a few seconds. You never know what lies in the present. Just be patient in the down time.
Have you ever struggled with it? How did you remedy it? We’re all out in the open here guys. We do this business thing together. Let me hear what you think!
joy. that’s just how i’m going to start out this post.
here’s a compiled collage of things that bring me joy, and i guess i just didn’t realize it until i read my bible study this morning ( pictured bottom left )
“We act as though comfort and luxury were the chief requirements in life, when all that we need to make us really happy is something to be enthusiastic about.” – Charles Kingsley
whoah. for reals. whoahhhhhh.
this 100% put it in perspective for me – how about you? us as females ( sorry guys – you’re not quite the same here – well… maybe ) we go and buy things to make us happy – get our nails done, by our friends gifts, get a massage, a splurge at tj maxx, you know what it is for you … and what does that bring us? temporary. only temporary happiness. why does it go away after you purchased it? if you’re like me… you almost feel guilty after you purchase it… like – why in the heck did i buy that? ( not always 🙂 ) but mostly its impulse, right?
well, that’s not joy. re-read that quote… just something to be enthusiastic about. what are you enthusiastic about? here’s a few of mine…
// pumpkins. i walked around the corner at fresh market the other day and found these. what! hello fall. it brought me instant joy. i took in a minute and soaked in the breeze, smiled a bit and thanked Jesus for these small things that make me happy.
// my husband. this joy wont ever go away. he always brings me joy. this particular moment he looked all cute and nerdy ( hello! ) while he was replacing my new hard drive – that by the way he purchased, installed, etc ( what would i do without him? ) he can do the smallest things for me and i know that i’m blessed.
// red wine. this isn’t an always instant piece of joy for me, but this particular time it was. some of you follow me on instagram, and you saw that i enjoyed a really great evening dinner ( of wine 😉 ) on the patio by the pool with my husband. we talked for hours about our goals, what makes us happy, and just plain ‘ol communication. this connection means the world to me. of course, the chianti was in fact amazing and not to mention it was the rest of our bottle from our anniversary date at our favorite place in greenville, the lazy goat.
// maxi. ahm hello doesn’t he look happy? we were waiting in line for the ATM and i just happened to look down to see his smiling face. i just love that the little things bring him joy ( we walked down peachtree rd ). i’m working on that.
// one more of max. see his ears flapping? when they do that its usually a breeze. and i love what he does when he soaks up the breeze. his little beagle nose just starts sniffing. and i think he’s smiling inside. when is the last time you just sniffed and let your hair blow in the breeze?
// jesus. i would say the bible study that i’m reading, but it all boils down to Jesus. i’m currently reading through work/life balance in inspirations for girlfriends by miller ( i have an older version though – i’ve reread this for the 3rd year now and STILL LOVE IT ) i’m really learning that learning to be enthusiastic about everything i do, its not a routine and i want to learn out of every situation. the study ends with this scripture : “You thrill me, LORD, with all you have done for me! I sing for joy because of what you have done.” – Psalm 92:4
another thing i didn’t add, was that while i was fixing my coffee and getting ready for my day, i plugged in this dance party playlist. hello dance party! yup, i had one with myself ( and maxie ) in my kitchen. get fired up! what in your life needs some enthusiasm?
lovelies, have a great thursday. i’ll be back tomorrow with some new updates my work! wahooo!
what i’ve learned : stress management
now, lets go ahead and get this straight, i’m not an expert on stress. i tend to have a lot in my life and it’s set me back a good bit. all i know is that sometimes i can manage it. here’s three tips i typically go for:
now… this is what works for me. its typically a strange combination but i will tell you, music always works. just listen. enjoy. this too shall pass.